Friday, July 2, 2010

Awareness of Bad Habits

Olga is a classic example of a person in stage 2. She has become aware of the problem. Olga’s “bad habit” is her low self- esteem, which is the only thing that keeps her from ending such an abusive relationship. Just as every bad habit can be broken, low self- esteem can be changed into a healthy self- image. But it takes time.

Olga realizes that her children’s safety may be at risk. Chuck has never done anything violent so far, but Olga is beginning to unders tand that she’s playing with fire. As bad as the relationship is, Olga doesn’t want to lose Chuck. “I love him,” she says, “Can’t he see how much he’s hurting me?”

Olga recognizes that her life may be in danger. Chuck has said that he would like to take her to another part of the country. Olga senses that moving to an area of the country where she doesn’t have any support relationships would make her even more vulnerable than she is now. “He might take me there and then decide to kill me,” she said. the following points in mind:

· People in this stage need support, listening, and feedback.

· Don’t give advice unless you’re asked for it.

· People in this stage usually need to be jolted into action, but that doesn’t mean you’re the one who should apply the pressure.

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